Alison Robertson

So you’re past the first phases of a relationship. You’ve met the man, or woman, you’re attracted, they like you, you like them, you’ve had some banter back and forth, a few dates, maybe some kissing and touching.  You feel ready to take the relationship to the next level.  Or maybe you’re in a committed relationship and you’d love to spice things up a little.  There is a handy little tool, right in the palm of your hand, which can help you achieve that.  And no I’m not talking about the Pocket Rocket; I’m talking about sexting.

Take a deep breath, I’m gonna take it easy on you.  We’re not going to go all willy nilly here.  You don’t have to give it all away at the gate; sometimes just a little tease is enough to get it going. Gypsy Rose Lee was the queen of burlesque, but she never actually showed anything. Instead, she seductively used the illusion or implication of sexual fulfillment to titillate her audiences. The art of the strip tease is about sensuality, it’s about slow, sexy reveals that heighten eroticism and leave the other wanting more. This is how you should approach sexting. Don’t give it all away at once.

Sexting can spice up an already existing relationship by allowing both partners to feel more freedom sharing thoughts about intimacy in the bedroom and beyond. Someone who is shy about asking for something intimate face-to-face might feel more empowered to do so when there is a little distance and a feeling of anonymity.  Start up a conversation in the afternoon and you’ll be amazed what may be waiting for you when you get home.  I wouldn’t be surprised if you walked in to a candle lit room and a nice bottle of wine instead of the usual sports game on TV.   

I would like to leave you with a word of warning, let’s leave the naked body parts to those who have been paid lots of money to share them and members of Congress.  I’d really hate for a risqué pic to come back, and pardon my French here, bite you in the ass. With awareness and caution, you can use all of the tools at your disposal to have a fun, sexy, but safe time with your partner and heighten your sex lives together.  

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