It’s the easiest thing to do, you dash off a quick sentence and hit send and your message is transported with lightening speed anywhere across the globe. But just like smoke signals, texts have a way of being misinterpreted. I can’t tell you how many of my clients have been left dismayed and confused after receiving the text equivalent of a grunted one word response, or were left wondering what someone meant because things like sarcasm do not translate well to text. Text messaging probably causes more confusion in the twenty first century when it comes to matters of the heart than anything else I see in my practice.
Don’t let a text message be a deal breaker in a new romantic situation. Just as you wouldn’t text and drive, don’t text and decide. I see a lot of people making decisions about someone based on a few quick phrases dashed off and sent by text. If you are confused about someone’s words, pick up the phone and call them.
Texting allows us to easily share thoughts with one another through time and space without having to take too much time out of our busy lives. They can be a fun way to include romance in the midst of a hectic workday schedule, and it can be a great way to communicate a quick thought or idea. While it can be a wonderful way to bond with our friends and romantic partners, being aware of the limitations of texting and using it when it is appropriate will only serve to enhance our flirtations and intimate relationships.
Come back next week and I’ll talk more about texting and sexting and how it can help spice up a relationship.
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